09.25.07
Women, You Deserve to Feel Good through Masturbation
Women, You Deserve to Feel Good through Masturbation
Women, you really do deserve to feel good through masturbation… so take control of your sexual satisfaction now. While you may not think you have the time, energy or desire to masturbate, it is quite healthy for females to explore their bodies, release built-up tension, and feel a sense of immense relaxation after a good orgasm. Women do not even have to always have an orgasm to feel a sexual release, but learning what arouses you and having an orgasm is a human need that will really give you a sense of happiness… all around.
When talking about sex, female masturbation is often taboo, but sex toy manufacturers make millions and millions of dollars every year. So, what is it about females and masturbation that is taboo for so many Americans? Masturbation is a fundamental element in enjoying a healthy sexuality and a confident lifestyle. By exploring your body by yourself you discover what feels good for you, which you can communicate to your partner. Orgasms, whether they are by yourself or with a partner, release tension, allowing your body to relax. And most importantly, it’s fun. Whether you’ve never orgasmed before, have just lost your sex drive, or have wanted to try it and never have, masturbation is a great way to explore your sexual limits.
Although most men masturbate, more and more women explore their bodies to feel good, orgasm and come back for more when they need a quick release. According to The Janus Report on Sexual Behavior released in 1992, only 38 percent of females masturbate on a regular basis in comparison to 55 percent of men. But more recently Redbook, the women’s magazine, conducted their own survey to discover that 68 percent of married women masturbate.
Do you want to find out how to masturbate? Well, here are a few key tips to get started in exploring yourself, allowing you to enjoy sex with your partner more. Remember that there’s no “right” or “wrong” way, as long as it feels right. You may not orgasm the first time, or even the first few times. Like anything worth it, you’ll have to practice what feels right for you.
Start by using clean hands and massaging all your body parts with your hands or a sex toy… get to know what feels good to you. Adjust speeds, temperatures, pressures, patterns and whatever else you can think of to find out what really arouses you. Relaxing is the key, and orgasm is likely to follow when you find out what works best for you. Exploring yourself is a great way to get comfortable with your body. Many women are self-concious during sex, which inhibits their ability to get lost in the moment. Take deep breaths, and tighten your PC muscles. Consider squeezing and releasing the muscles that surround your vagina and anal area a number of times, which strengthen the muscles, gives you more control, and can make orgasms more intense during sex. Stroke yourself, with varying degrees and pressure, paying special attention to what feels best. Try varying pressures, speeds, and motions.
Be sure to use lubrication when masturbating and having sex… if masturbating or sex is not really feeling that great, it’s likely that you need some lubrication for smooth motion and penetration. Use a finger or two, or a sex toy, to penetrate vaginally. When inside, find the g spot, which feels extra intense for most women out there, and stroke it to lead to climax. With a finger inside, your g spot would be between your finger and the front of your body… anywhere from an inch to a few inches inside. Slow strokes with some pressure really does it for me and may be the key for you too. Lubrication is vitally important throughout any sex play. A great product that lubricates and stimulates blood flow to erogenous tissue, increasing sensitivity and enhancing climax, is HerSolution Gel™.
Men often just focus on women’s vaginal, oral and anal openings, but you know how good other parts feel too… take your time and explore your whole body and focus on your sensitive spots. If there is a trigger, such as squeezing the breasts, that usually lights you up during sex with a partner, then try to incorporate that into your solo play if possible.
This is a great day to learn to live your life to the fullest, sexually too. This is a great time to explore fantasy and sexual taboos. Exhibitionism for the Shy author suggests breaking your own sexual limits - such as, if you’ve wanted to talk dirty in bed with your partner, then try it out first to yourself when you’re alone. This will make you more comfortable with the idea, even if it only happens when you’re alone. By yourself, there is no one else to please - the focus is on you. See what gets you hot and bothered. Remember, it is completely normal to fantasize about someone who isn’t your partner.
Take control of yourself, experiment with your body and share what you learn about your body with your partner for a more fulfilling sex life. If you’re kind of shy, moaning (loadly) is a great way to let your partner know what feels really good. Communicating all that you learned you like with your partner is important to a more fulfilling sex life. And while you’re at it, remember to pick up some HerSolution Gel™ to make everything move smoothly.